After quite a while of sadness and devastation, getting back
in your old relationship might sound like the best thing ever happen in your whole life.
It’s the sweetest and most magical feeling you ever had.
But let’s get all things considered. Saying yes to a get
back proposal does not make everything rainbow, musical, and a happily ever
after. Especially when your significant other cheated on you. Here come the
consequences. As from my experiences, three things you are going to endure with
are:
Trust issue: cheating
is never an accident. It’s a choice. And if you ever had someone cheated on you
unexpectedly, trust me, it feels like your whole effort has been thrown on the
ground and stepped on. The trust is gone. You are going to have a hard time
trying to trust again. And along the way, let’s meet:
Paranoia: I don’t
know how to exactly explain this word, but to me it is overthinking,
overprotecting, and panicking. It’s the questions running around your head
asking what if it happens again, what if you’re not preventing it enough, what
if you’re not doing enough…
PTSD: Post
Traumatic Stress Disorder. Trust me, this is the worst. You’ll find it hard to
deal with when just a flicker of thought or something little reminds you of how
your partner did it without even thinking of how you’d feel. Breaking down in
tears is very common. But questioning everything from the start until this
moment is way more exhausting because there is a battle inside you over the
worth of your forgiveness. Is he worth it?
These are just some of the things I have encountered.
Cheating, emotionally or physically, is wrong. If you can’t commit to anyone
yet, don’t just destroy their faith in true love.
And trust me, if your significant other forgive you over
your wrongdoing, you'd better appreciate them because you’ll never understand all the shit
you’ve put them through. And when they say yes to your request, remember these
hard feelings they have to endure.
J
